Diary of a Pleasure Dom

I’ve been active on Feeld for a little while now. It’s been interesting.

For the first time, I can actually be open about being a pleasure dom and looking for a bratty good girl without feeling like I have to hide it. That part feels good.

I’ve had a few conversations, but one woman in particular has stuck with me. She’s very interested, and the attraction seems mutual.

The catch?

Her bio makes it clear she’s really into rope play. She even referred to herself as a “bunny.”

When I told her I have no experience with ropes but I’m comfortable with padded cuffs and other restraints, she said cuffs would work for now… but then added that “bunnies typically prefer ropes.”

That line has been sitting in my head ever since.

I’m genuinely interested in her, but I’ve been putting off meeting. Not because I’m scared for my own safety, but because I don’t want her first experience with me to be disappointing.

I understand how dangerous rope play can be if it’s not done correctly — nerve damage, circulation issues, and even permanent injury can happen surprisingly fast.

That’s why I ordered proper Shibari ropes.

Regular hardware store rope is not appropriate for bondage. It’s usually too stiff, has rough fibers that can cause burns or abrasions, and doesn’t have the right amount of stretch or grip. Shibari ropes are specifically designed for this — they’re soft, strong, have the right amount of give, and are much safer when used correctly.

My plan is to learn the basics properly — from good resources and, ideally, with guidance — before I try anything with another person.

I want to do this right.

This whole situation has me reflecting on how new I still am.

I feel confident in my pleasure-dom style — the Sybian, overstimulation, light bondage with cuffs, praise, all of that. But rope? That’s a whole different world, and I’m very aware that I’m the beginner here.

It’s a strange feeling.

I want to explore and grow, but I also don’t want to waste someone else’s time or energy while I’m still figuring things out.

I guess that’s part of the journey too — learning where my edges are and deciding when I’m ready to push them.

More soon.

PD